Patti's warmth, genuine kindness, compassion, and integrity are exceptional.
You truly are a rare gem and I am so thankful we found you!
Patti has saved my marriage several times. We are now stronger than ever as a couple and happier than we ever have been in our 16 years of marriage. Thank you, Patti!
I always feel better after we come here.
Patti’s outstanding features are her exceptional skill level and her professionalism as well as her ability to consistently respond to patients and staff alike with deep respect and sincere compassion. (Director of hospital psychiatric liaison services)
I'm scared to think where we would be if we hadn't come to see you. I didn't know what to do. We were not making it. I'm sure we would have been divorced because we were at each other's throats. Now things are much better.
I was walking around with a dark cloud over my head. I still can't believe how fast that changed.
You are really good at what you do. I'm serious. What you do is like an art. Somehow just sitting here talking to you, I changed the way I think about things. It's like the blinders came off.
I was reviewing other programs for the father and YOURS IS THE BEST! It is a complete curriculum that encourages and supports positive parenting changes. An excellent model. (Los Angeles Child and Family Services social worker)
I thought our relationship was solid because we had strong feelings for each other. Now we are building a strong relationship.
That was the worst time of my life. And you helped me get through it.
We put in the effort and it paid off, and now neither one of us wants a divorce!
When we came to see you, we didn't know if we would make it. We were barely putting one foot in front of the other. You have been a big help to us.
Patti's performance was consistently above and beyond the expected level for any individual.
My son is doing so much better. I'm so glad we came! Thank you!!
I am really doing great. I have learned a lot since I’ve been here. I had the skills [previously], and lost them down the line. It’s been wonderful.
Patti was a pleasure to work with.
We came to see Patti at the worst time of my life - I found out my husband had been cheating. She helped us make our our marriage better. We had a lot to learn, it turns out, but we are making progress. I can't believe we are getting through this nightmare, but it is possible!
I really appreciated that you took time with us and made us feel relaxed, not rushed.
Thank You, Patti, for your kind and wise words of encouragement. Much appreciated.
I am shocked that my husband opened up to you! He never opens up to anybody! He really you and wants to keep coming! Amazing!
One thing I want to remember is that pulling out a strength and encouraging strength in a child is a better way than criticism.
So, basically, yeah, I had been raised old school, so my parents would tell me to stop crying and shut up, which is totally different from what I’ve been taught now. I will take what I learned and apply it to my life and raising my child to become a better parent.
Looking back at our relationship a year ago, it was so different. Our marriage was not good. We really didn't know what we were doing. We knew something was wrong, but we didn't know what. Coming to counseling was the best thing we could have done. Our marriage is really good now.
I have made a lot of progress!
These choices created a safe and nurturing place and family for us to be with and come home to.
Our previous therapist cut our sessions very short and my boyfriend would not even talk in the session. I would leave in tears each time. What a difference!!! I am so glad we came to see you!!!
For me, basically, what changed my thinking was communication or learning how to communicate with children. The way I was raised was much different. So all this has been a real eye opener for me. It has shown me to become a better, more understanding parent and individual."
Patti brings strong interest in scholarly research, great enthusiasm, a passion for teaching others.
It's never good to make a choice from a place of anxiety, but [instead] a place of rest. Also, to say, "No" is fine, and if people don't respect that, then they don't belong in my or my child's lives.
We look forward to implementing the things you are teaching us and journeying to a place that is safe and loving for both of us.
I used to, and in some ways still am, full of fear. I used to fantasize about being taken out of this world and going to Narnia or space…but now…not so much. So, thank you.
Thank you for what you do. You are really making a big difference in people's lives.
This tragedy has made me a stronger person and parent. It has shown me I have endurance and can do anything when my love in my heart is strong for my child.
I recommend Patti without any reservation.
This motivated me to become an educated parent, also value being a mother to my daughter. Even more so, valuing my child and a relationship with her.
My thinking about protecting my wife and family has changed... I realize I need to protect them from me, from the things I can do that make them feel unsafe.
I have seen a lot of therapists in my life. I never really had good results before. I am really happy I came here.
Both me and my husband have never liked going to see someone before and didn't feel open to talk to them. But with you it's easy. So I just wanted to say thank you.
My new wisdom: Child first always. Always room to grow. Support systems important. I have the strength to endure. I unconditionally love my child.
This is how I feel now: That my parents were ignorant and I’m grateful for these parenting classes now.
Thank you for what you do.
My anger is gone, completely gone. I'm back to the way I used to be.
I was comfortable with all of it.
Patti is absolutely amazing and I am so lucky to have worked with her!
I appreciate you and all your support for [my son]!
I want to tell you sometimes you're just a big breath of fresh air to me. That's all I wanted to tell you.
We couldn't be happier about the outcome.
I have been going to therapists my whole life. Why did they never teach me this stuff? I have learned more here in a short time...I am already doing much better and I attribute that to my visits with you.
Patti demonstrated a very broad and deep knowledge base and was very educated as far as current research in the field of psychology is concerned.
I tell all my friends to go see Patti because she's normal!
I used to never show anyone who I really was. I was afraid if I did that nobody would want to be around me, that because I had PTSD everyone would be afraid of me. I am finally able to just be me, for the first time really. It feels really good. Now my wife and kids know me and they are what really matters.
Patti was prepared and well-trained.
One thing that stood out to me was that it’s better to give guidance instead of anger. I firmly believe that ‘anger is the enemy of instruction’.
I told my friend to come here because it's better than anything he is going to find on base!
Before I thought we were the 1%, that our relationship was different. I was cocky. Now I'm confident.
Our fights aren't happening as often and we get over them quickly, and it's only been a few weeks. It's due to what you've been teaching us.
To me intimate relationship means into you/me I see, that you can open your heart/emotions/mind to each other and feel safe.
It’s a nice confirmation that I’m on the right track with her and with some extra, helpful tips.
I used to think personal power was to get one's way, or abusing authority, or giving [the other] their way. Now I know it's to respect yourself and others and use it to make good decisions and to get your needs met.
Therapy took a bite out of our wallet for a while, but a divorce would have been much more expensive permanently! We learned a lot!
Thank you Patti for your very caring and supportive actions and information.
My husband has a hard time opening up and expressing himself. I think he feels very comfortable with you because he is opening up with you and practicing the things you gave us to work on at home.
What challenged my thinking was the Proverb [often misquoted as] ‘Spare the rod, you spoil the child.’ I previously thought if you didn’t discipline your children, [meaning] ‘spank at times,’ then they will be disrespectful and spoiled brats. Now the revelation of ‘rod’ is staff to guide or scepter to teach. Discipline is similar to the word disciple, meaning to teach. As parents we guide and teach our children through life.
We were having communication problems. At the end of our first session, Patti showed my fiancee a different way to understand what I was saying, and that really helped us. We began to get along better after that.
Just taking the time to listen and know "I want" means letting me know they have a need to be met. It doesn't mean my toddler is rude and demanding from me. It's just that her vocabulary is limited.
Real love is us working together through our crap, after hurting each other with it, and surrendering for one another, not because we want to always, but because we have real love for one another. We are going to have a great year and move it forward.
I'm recognizing emotional expression as an opportunity for connection.
Learning to stop and take a break from the conversation was cool.
We will continue to keep working together on this matter, building the strength we need. We didn't create this in one day, our problem was built with time. And time is what we need to evolve with each other - either becoming stronger or allowing ourselves to be defeated by our words and in isolation from one another. Thank you...Much appreciated.
I thought discipline meant to scold the child or spank and send to room or have time out. My new mindset is that it means to teach the child with patience, and teach about boundaries, and what’s approved behavior and what’s not.
I feel you are on the right track and I couldn't be happier. :)
Patti was a wonderful asset to our agency. (Director of program serving children and parents)
I've learned to be stretched is good, and the more you practice, it becomes a little easier.
Thank you for not answering the phone during my sessions or telling me what to do, like my last therapist. You are very present during sessions and help me decide what I want to do and why.
The best and brightest therapist out there!
Thank you. What you did with me and my son in the last session, that really meant so much to me.
I am becoming the man I want to be.
You are amazing!
Thank you for teaching us how to have a more warm, respectful and cooperative relationship with each other!
I wasn't encouraged to use positive self-talk much growing up, but this is something I now practice in the mirror with myself and my child so we can become what we say.
My son really did not connect with his last therapist even after 3 months. After his first session, he said he felt much better here and we have already seen a lot of improvement!
I have never been taught this stuff after all the years I have been in therapy. This really helps!
You are the perfect therapist for me!
We always feel better after we come here.
My new life meaning would be I am blessed, privileged to be a parent and have a wonderful relationship with my child. I am a strong, independent woman with a support team and I am ready for success for my and my child's future.
My counselor is there for me 100%.